“You’re just attention seeking” …. “Just deal with it” … “You look fine” And other things not to say to someone with a chronic illness…

I don’t know why people think that they have the answers to everything. It really annoys me that someone else feels that they know my body better than I do. If I’m honest there are 3 types of people that I have come across since I was diagnosed.

*The Sympathetic People

*The Wannabe Doctors

*The Outright Rude

 

The Sympathetic People

These people are very nice. They try to understand what you are going through and they try to help you, however, you want to be helped. They find out as much as they can, about your illness and they are genuinely nice to you. These are the kind of people you need around you at all times, not just during a flare.

 

 The Wannabe Doctors

I think these people make me the angriest. They think they have the answer to my illness there and then. Don’t get me wrong sometimes they do this out of care, they think they are helping. Some people are just ignorant and think they know everything. They tell you the basic things that “make you healthy”.

 

The Outright Rude

These people are infuriating. They either don’t believe in your illness or simply do not care as they can’t physically see it. I have met many of these people in my life.

They all say the same thing:

“You’re making it up”

There’s nothing wrong with you”

“You’re an attention seeker”

“Nobody believes you”

“You aren’t even trying to help yourself”

I do not have time for these people.

 

I am NOT asking for attention. I WISH I WAS MAKING IT UP. TRUST ME THERE IS PLENTY WRONG WITH ME. I DON’T CARE IF YOU DON’T BELIEVE ME. I AM TRYING TO HELP MYSELF.

 

I wanted to write this post because IT IS NOT OK TO TREAT SOMEONE BADLY FOR SOMETHING YOU DO NOT UNDERSTAND!

It is so important to understand everyone, I’m not just talking about illness’ but everything.

 

“If you don’t have anything nice to say, Don’t say anything at all!”

 

-Georgie xoxo

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  1. I commend you for wanting to help yourself. I myself have not been diagnosed officially with Fibro, but am in the process possibly being diagnosed with it. On the other hand, I completely understand what it feels like to have to go through individuals who have no idea about silent illnesses. I have PTSD with severe anxiety; the ones around me are not supportive and I am constantly bashed about oh! you can get out of that funk; or “everytime you turn around there is something else wrong with you” ….I am so sick of hearing about it- if I had the choice to lead a healthy and pain free life than by all means- I would!

    I wish you the best of luck and look forward to reading more of your blog 🙂

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